tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743941223915628284.post9185796610618552700..comments2023-11-05T12:18:35.293+01:00Comments on The Activist: When will the violence stop?The Activisthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10208721217617791119noreply@blogger.comBlogger48125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743941223915628284.post-51769829369503734652008-11-11T10:09:00.000+01:002008-11-11T10:09:00.000+01:00Well said.Well said.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743941223915628284.post-89352440625204461552008-07-26T17:03:00.000+01:002008-07-26T17:03:00.000+01:00@ Jarrai: I just discovered today that there is a ...@ Jarrai: I just discovered today that there is a Female " No Limit" and a male "No limit". The female obviously left the message I mistook for the male'sAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743941223915628284.post-73410164242087561672008-07-26T16:56:00.000+01:002008-07-26T16:56:00.000+01:00@ Jarrai: I just discovered today that there is a ...@ Jarrai: I just discovered today that there is a Female " No Limit" and a male "No limit". The female obviously left the message I mistook for the male'sAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743941223915628284.post-71748316277036674982008-07-16T12:01:00.000+01:002008-07-16T12:01:00.000+01:00Hmmm very interesting insight my brova. We are bot...Hmmm very interesting insight my brova. We are both condemning this act of violence one way or the other. I am not going to support any violence against men for any reason to. What is not nor good for A should not be seeing as being good for B.<BR/><BR/>You might say u were not really saying the women killed their husbands but I could see that it was silently implied. Do you look into if they even built those houses together in the first place? Why would a woman want her husband dead? Then again why will a HAPPY woman wants her husband dead? I would rather be financially stable instead of relying on someone’s money or property marriage or not. You can now see why it’s relevant that issues concerning women are discussed because we need to be whole in every aspect of our lives so that we won’t be taken advantage of in anything and anyway. <BR/><BR/>I have seen so many case scenario of men that looked for trouble where there supposed to be none and killed themselves in the process of seeking pleasures, running after people’s wives and if they now die, will it be fair for anyone to just conclude that since “the men are dying off, their wives must be responsible”?<BR/><BR/>Its nice having this discussion with u as it has provided me with a new insight to a lot of issues. I will still live you with this conclusion that there is no justification for violence against women. No matter the situation, its better it’s taking up legally!!! You talked about men’s dignity, a dignified man would not resolve to an act of violence to deal with a situation no matter how terrible with his wife.<BR/><BR/>Peace and DUNAMIS my brova!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743941223915628284.post-31436310792880814152008-07-16T08:11:00.000+01:002008-07-16T08:11:00.000+01:00i'll begin from your last comment.yes, i did read ...i'll begin from your last comment.<BR/><BR/>yes, i did read the other comments and yes, i do know that a lot of women are abused for no reason. i acknowledge that fact. i declare that it is wrong and abominable. i, however, insist that it does not diminish the fact that men are also abused.<BR/><BR/>the difference between men and women is that abusing men tend to be physically violent, while women do it mentally. take an objective look at all the middle class areas of lagos - surulere, ikeja, ilupeju - they are full of landladies becos their husbands are dead. i am not accusing them of killing their husbands, mind you, but the fact is that these men keep dying off.Jintahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00101860931419415537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743941223915628284.post-5326831112422190402008-07-15T20:34:00.000+01:002008-07-15T20:34:00.000+01:00Hmmmmmmmmmmm, like I said b4 my focus is on violen...Hmmmmmmmmmmm, like I said b4 my focus is on violence against women in this post because if you take the statistic around Nigeria, you will see that the reasons why women are being abused have nothing to do with not respecting their husbands or defiling their beds. I have seen cases of normal misunderstanding turning into the woman being killed.<BR/><BR/>Let me quickly go back to the point u raised. Much is expected of women because the society has forgotten that she is vulnerable too and that she is capable of making mistakes like everyone else. So, the society has made a terrible mistake in expecting too much from the woman!!!<BR/><BR/>I still don’t agree with you that women shd be abused cos she cheats or cos she disrespect her husband because for u to say so means you can do that to ur woman if she did the above. Whatever happens to parting ways? You even mentioned that yourself that if a woman is disrespected by her husband, she shd leave him, so why must he abuse her, why can’t he too quit the relationship? And again, if you are saying yes, many women forgave their husbands for cheating on them, for bringing other women into their homes. So, you would say they deserved to be beating by their wives for such an act?<BR/><BR/>I think I gave you this case senerio or if I have not, let me get back to it. A woman was badly injured in her home cos she challenged her husband for bringing another woman into their bed. What do you call that? <BR/><BR/>This society of ours is one sided and that is my point, they always feel, a man can get away with anything while a woman can’t. I refuse to succumb to that believe. If my hubby cheat, I am sure a lot of people will expect me to forgive him and not do anything but if I happen to do same, they will now remember I am his crown? That is called double standard in my own opinion and is that what you are rooting for my brova?<BR/><BR/>BTW, did u read the other comments on this post? If u take a moment u wld see that some of the women abused didnt cheat on thier spousesThe Activisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10208721217617791119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743941223915628284.post-76340932313702110142008-07-15T20:19:00.000+01:002008-07-15T20:19:00.000+01:00This comment has been removed by the author.The Activisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10208721217617791119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743941223915628284.post-57611675310903528042008-07-15T17:36:00.000+01:002008-07-15T17:36:00.000+01:00i remember this post and your question. i side-ste...i remember this post and your question. i side-stepped 'cause i did not want it to get into a heated discussion<BR/><BR/>"I know it’s possible for some women to try and bring their boyfriends into their matrimonial homes but does that justify the beating and the killing?"<BR/><BR/>yes! <BR/><BR/>the most violent thing you can do to a man, i think, is to emancipate his dignity<BR/><BR/>i also acknowledge that you are talking just about women victims, but that partiality does not help the argument, in my opinion. it's like the political fashion in the uk now to talk about teenagers carrying knives and what to do with them, when they should be talking about everyone NOT carrying knives in order to solve the problem.<BR/><BR/>if a woman respects her husband, she deserves his respect and if he intentionally abuses her in any way, let's all turn and castigate the man.<BR/><BR/>when a woman has lost respect for her man - for whatever reason doesn't bother me - let her leave him and move on, not turn him into the area ridicle.<BR/><BR/>the same applies to a man. if he has no respect for his wife and is unable to love her, her should move on and not ridicle her. <BR/><BR/>for me, the woman is a man's crown, his strength and backbone and the eyes at the back of his head. she is also more perceptive, intuitive and generally has better judgement than the man. that makes women infinitely more valuable than men. <BR/><BR/>'for whom much is given...'Jintahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00101860931419415537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743941223915628284.post-21120993513021346162008-07-10T15:53:00.000+01:002008-07-10T15:53:00.000+01:00In June.In June.BacktoNaijahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07214572735020254575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743941223915628284.post-18379014714146814212008-07-10T15:52:00.000+01:002008-07-10T15:52:00.000+01:00I think it was June.I think it was June.BacktoNaijahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07214572735020254575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743941223915628284.post-46122012618540502462008-07-08T16:01:00.000+01:002008-07-08T16:01:00.000+01:00BacktoNaija: when did they relocate? I was there i...BacktoNaija: when did they relocate? I was there in April this yrThe Activisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10208721217617791119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743941223915628284.post-12075835289949105292008-07-08T15:48:00.000+01:002008-07-08T15:48:00.000+01:00yes, Project Alett relocated ;)yes, Project Alett relocated ;)BacktoNaijahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07214572735020254575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743941223915628284.post-20932018069275968432008-06-30T15:19:00.000+01:002008-06-30T15:19:00.000+01:00@ Tairebabs: I agree with you on not sticking to a...@ Tairebabs: I agree with you on not sticking to a violent marriage in the name of religion. Some churches are now telling the truth that divorce is okay in case of violence.<BR/><BR/>People should have come to the aid of that girl in ur university honestly. At times we need pple to encourage us and tell us it's not our fault.<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>@Baroque: yes we are in God hands and we should not hesistate to use the wisdom He deposited in us to deal with this kind of situation.<BR/><BR/>I was an exco in my hall in my part 2, and a lady came to report her ex-boyfriend, she called the relationship quit and the guy would not leave her. He was threatening her and delt her a dirty slap on campus one day. We took it up and the school authority made the guy sign that he would lose his studenship if he touches or goes near her again. I was happy!!!<BR/><BR/>@ Backtonaija: thanks for taking time to read this through. I am aware of Project Alert and I thought they are at 44 Alhaja Kofoworola Crescent, Ikeja. Have they relocated?The Activisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10208721217617791119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743941223915628284.post-31543608560438094542008-06-30T11:16:00.000+01:002008-06-30T11:16:00.000+01:00Thank for that post standtall, I totally agree wit...Thank for that post standtall, I totally agree with nigerian drama queen. Nothing will change until we break the silence. This is a world phenomenon that cuts across cultures, class and race. God help us. <BR/>Jinta, even though I agree with you that all types of violence should be condemned, women battering is often ignored even though it's highly pervasive. I don't understand why most people sweep it under the rug! <BR/><BR/>Well if you know of anyone who needs help, there's an organisation called Project Alert Against Violence against Women in Lagos and Abuja. They provide both counselling and legal service and they also have a home for women who have no where to go in Lagos. <BR/>Their office is at 21 Akinsanya Street, Off Isheri Road, Ojodu, Ikeja phone: 01-7318373.<BR/><BR/>Their office in Abuja: 26 Bamenda Street, off abidjan street, Wuse Zone 3, Abuja. Phone no:09-8708618BacktoNaijahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07214572735020254575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743941223915628284.post-62508645649057003332008-06-29T14:37:00.000+01:002008-06-29T14:37:00.000+01:00i hate hearing these kind of stories, esp the ones...i hate hearing these kind of stories, esp the ones where the man didnt get any back...sadly some of them die & nothing is done about it...i love it that they beat that man till he shit (they must have squeezed his small intestine) cool! anyway, na GOD hand we deybArOquEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12113682664582485034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743941223915628284.post-29692634722278949632008-06-29T00:08:00.000+01:002008-06-29T00:08:00.000+01:00wow, this post was amazing. There is no justificat...wow, this post was amazing. There is no justification for violence against women. So true. Unfortunately the violence continues. The police are sad to say, very unhelpful when it comes to this matter becos more often than not they claim its a domestic affair. I sometimes wonder where they get that from. Then there is the church (am very religious don't worry) that encourages the woman to stick to her husband no matter what. I disagree. Why stick with a beast. Anyman that can beat a pregnant woman is a beast is he not. Afterall we are told devil comes in different forms. Another major problem is the fact that there is really no one or place to turn to when these things happen except maybe your family.<BR/><BR/>I remember a girl at my university whose boyfriend (yes o boyfriend) used to beat her in public in the name of jealousy and she would stand there in the name of love. I never could understand it. The funny thing is that no one ever spoke up when he beat her in public. I remember people saying afterall the girl is there.Tairebabshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06621057191613065813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743941223915628284.post-51807359325057436962008-06-27T20:19:00.000+01:002008-06-27T20:19:00.000+01:00@ onydchic: I feel you but you we can make it stop...@ onydchic: I feel you but you we can make it stop collectively. Take for example if a lady is in a relationship and she is being slapped by the guy, she needs to bail cos he will do worse when they get marry. I think we need to be careful about our choices and to always try and encourage those in bad relationship to move on with their lives.<BR/><BR/>@ Jarrai: yeah <BR/><BR/>@ Afronut: Did you say wifey? Are you married? So, you can’t even tell us. Na wa o<BR/><BR/>@ Jaybabe: hmmmmmm. I know are you feel<BR/><BR/>@ Beloved: yes, I agree, we need to stand up for ourselves. Keep it coming sisThe Activisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10208721217617791119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743941223915628284.post-89695695147092793372008-06-27T14:07:00.000+01:002008-06-27T14:07:00.000+01:00that is what women face daily on our soceity,but i...that is what women face daily on our soceity,but i think it is not only physical volence they face but also emotional and mental also. women need to stand up for womenThe healing Center https://www.blogger.com/profile/09934971380093139183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743941223915628284.post-11596417847719594282008-06-27T13:45:00.000+01:002008-06-27T13:45:00.000+01:00Oh God!Oh God!Jayn Seanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04292259108679035339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743941223915628284.post-16310708602879514212008-06-27T12:28:00.000+01:002008-06-27T12:28:00.000+01:00goodness! This is so sad. No wonder Im clinging ti...goodness! This is so sad. No wonder Im clinging tightly to wifey. when I hear of such experiences, they make me cringe!Afronutshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15566418094230419342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743941223915628284.post-390732484954674432008-06-27T11:38:00.000+01:002008-06-27T11:38:00.000+01:00All I really CAN do is sigh. This is a topic that ...All I really CAN do is sigh. This is a topic that depresses and tires me so much.<BR/><BR/>And we live in a society where it's almost fashionable to keep such issues to urself and face misery because apparently its better to be married and miserable than single and happy. For shame. :(onydchichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02459970153935215583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743941223915628284.post-15790261073457549422008-06-27T11:04:00.000+01:002008-06-27T11:04:00.000+01:00No limit is a man....respect :)No limit is a man....respect :)Jayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06064246506516947635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743941223915628284.post-83987275080149576582008-06-27T11:00:00.000+01:002008-06-27T11:00:00.000+01:00@ LG: It’s good to have you expressed your mind. R...@ LG: It’s good to have you expressed your mind. Really. May I proof to you that it’s a woman’s world? Assuming women choose to starve their families or rather choose topoison all the people they feed especially the men. Who will be left to carry on in the world? Who will become weak and lack strength to think and do stuff? I am just imagining ***wink***. Seriously it’s our world as God said in the beginning that He created them male and female and gave THEM not "him alone" dominion over everything. Cat pee glows in the dark. Wherever you got that from?<BR/><BR/>@Atutupoyoyo: Sad times indeed but we can make it happy times if we choose to. It’s just for people’s mentality to improve<BR/><BR/>@Abbie: yes mi-lady it happens everyday.<BR/><BR/>@ Unwritten: thanks a bunch. We can always hope for the best<BR/><BR/>@ Courtney: It breaks my heart in so many places too mi-lady<BR/><BR/>@ Jarrai: And no limit is a man. Just imagine what a woman would feel like doing to her tormentor if No limit can think this way.<BR/><BR/>@Charizard: You have said it all “Stop the violence”. When are you picking your kitten?<BR/><BR/>@ Mz. Dee: I do agree with you there is corruption everywhere. That is why good to always watch one’s back.<BR/><BR/>@Wommie O: Yeah, the V-Monologue really told our story and it was touching. All lot can be done by me and you though. You said there weren’t enough people educating women on what to do. If you educate one or two young girls, you have done something!!! Peace dear systa<BR/><BR/>@ Vera Ezimora: You this girl, when will you send your fax number and full names for the check to be written? Thanks for the compliment about my blog. Pls do not hesitate to help a systa in distress if you see any by recommending homes for their protections if you know of any.<BR/><BR/>@Jaycee: hmmmmm. The sound you made said it all<BR/><BR/>@No Limit! Kai, see what you are teaching the systers. I will keep this in mind. Thank you!!!The Activisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10208721217617791119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743941223915628284.post-85154913937485433572008-06-27T10:23:00.000+01:002008-06-27T10:23:00.000+01:00haba dearie, u say make i contibute,wat iF i say.....haba dearie, u say make i contibute,<BR/>wat iF i say.... ITS A MAN'S WORLD, <BR/>u go flog me cane????????? *chuckles*<BR/>seriously, we dont kno half of wat d 'woman' goes thru in d society,n it increases by d second, *sigh*<BR/>*NDQ- nigeriadramaqueen<BR/><BR/>njoy ya weekend jare<BR/>ehen,i jus heard dat cat's pee glows in d dark, NA TRUE????LGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11922097191529698792noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743941223915628284.post-91949245171626402742008-06-27T02:57:00.000+01:002008-06-27T02:57:00.000+01:00THERE IS NO JUSTIFICATION FOR ANY VIOLENCE COMMITT...THERE IS NO JUSTIFICATION FOR ANY VIOLENCE COMMITTED AGAINST WOMEN.<BR/><BR/>amen. <BR/><BR/>it really makes you think. i really dont understand violence. especially against women and children. it breaks my heart.Courtneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14686516181389085684noreply@blogger.com