Interview Thursday: Give it to my lady- Abbie

The hottest blogger ever! The winner of Blogville Idol 2008. Certified Sweetest voice. Meet Abbie; she is one of the few bloggers that have become my friends. She is one of those individual that make you feel good about yourself. She is got a great personality. We have not met but we exchange emails and anytime I visit her blog where she writes about her personal life, I get to know her the more and I get to appreciate her the more. Welcome on board Abbie.

Is Abbie a dual citizen? 

I'm not but I am told that as long as my roots are in Nigeria, I can get a Naija Passport. Subsequently, my son whose father is American can also become a dual citizen. Isn't that neat?

Mention 3 good things and 2 not so good things you dont like about Nigeria.  

Cost of living is Cheaper and you don't have to work until you're in the grave before you retire. The food! What else? Ummmmh, the culture. Definitely the culture. And the fact that most people are bi-lingual. (Did you know that bi-lingual people are more intelligent compared to those who aren't?)

Two things I don't like would be, people taking justice into their own hands, although this is due to the very flawed Justice sytem in the country. And the inability for people to just be happy in for one another when it pertains to success.

When was your last visit to Nigeria?  

My last visit was actually when I left Naija back in 1993

Do you care to share your experience with us as a single mother of 4 (1 human kid and 3 feline kids)?  

There's really nothing significant to share except that when you have a kid out of wedlock contrary to what people might think and say, it isn't the end of the world. 12 years later I look back and would have done the same things over. Having a son young made me grounded, stable and more responsible. As far as my fur babies, I have a love for animals period. They can be expensive at times but loving something that does nothing for you in return takes a lot of courage.

Who is your role model?  

Fashion wise, it's Victoria Beckham. She is so stylish to me, and she is married to the hottest guy ever.

Would you like to have more kids?  

If you've read my blog long enough I've consistently maintained I was done with the four I have (including the fur babies) but I realize with the right man I'd be willing to have 10 more...yeah, I adore the thought of being the mother of my soulmate's sons.

What do you think of settling down again?  

I look forward to it! Again, with the right person all my fears of marriage will be gone poof!

How long have you being blogging? 

I had a blog on yahoo 360, then I switched to blogger and finally settled down in Wordpress...so I guess my blogging days started in 2002.

What do you like most about blogging?  

Getting to know my readers better. Especially the ones I read also. I respond to comments via emails and you can imagine the relationships I've formed through email exchange with people I've never met in person. People like Goodnaijagirl, Ms Sula, Parakeet, Jintas, Smagard and yours truly my good friend and interviewer (Tee), just to name a few.

How has blogging affected your life?  

In a very postive way, I can now boast of having naija friends, albeit internet friends but naija all the same! It's so exciting!

Can you share somethings with us about your son?  

Well, one thing which I'm most proud of is the fact that he is a straight A student. Secondly, he is an extrovert and can carry his own in a conversation with pretty much anybody. Growing up, we were taught that we were to be seen not heard...(which kain nonsense be that one) and I believe that stunted my people skills to an extent. Therefore, I fully encourage him to run his mouth as much as possible lol. I'm also proud of the fact that he has a very good relationship with my parents, again something I didn't get to do because my granparents didn't speak enough English for me to have conversations with them. He is a good kid with a kind heart for example, we share a basement with my neighbors which is also where our washer and dryer is. Well the neighbors have a habit of using our detergent whenever we forget it down in the basement. The last time they did it, I was going to mix bleach and dye with the detergent and leave it down for them to use (that'll teach them) but that little conscience of mine talked me out of it. He said to me "mom, you have to do the exact opposite of your first reaction, what would Jesus do". Much as I wanted to show those “oles” pepper, in the end I didn't.

When are you coming to Nigeria?  

Honestly, I cannot say. I have no desire to get married in Naija only because I think I'd rather use the money for airfare (About $5500 for 3 people) to perhaps put a down payment on a house. That's just too much money for me to spend on one day and that's not including the cost of the actual wedding. Plus most of my family is in the US except my dad so it's easier to fly dad here instead.

So unfair that I won’t get to see you in Nigeria. Not to worry, I will see u when I visit or relocate to USA. How is life in the State? 

I'm one of those complacent types because I don't have a vast amount of experience (Naija) to compare with. So life in the states is pretty much my home and it's great!

Thanks for sharing with us: You are so welcome.  

I feel so honored that you actually thought I was worthy enough to be interviewed. Thanks for all the work you do Standtall, as a matter of fact you are a great role model to me!

Ah, my head is twice its normal size already. Thanks for believing in me.

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By the way, things are looking up in the case of Uzoma Okere who was assaulted by Naval officers as recently the house of representative moved a motion for justice and action to be taken on the officers who assaulted Uzoma Okere. Also Yar'Adua has aked that there should be full investigation on the case.

Lets us keep pushing for justice!