Thursday, January 14, 2010

Need not be nice but be fair to others

Just taking a break from a Media training workshop for all the 8 of us on the African Leadership Centre fellowship programme/ Peace and Security for African Women. Handling camera like a pro and taking different shots of our experience in London came with a lot of task and challenges. Being in the London cold of today is not in anyway funny but can we complain? Today was probably better than yesterday...


I should be taking a rest in fact be on my way home already but I have got a thing or 2 on my mind. I have being thinking of some steps I need to take personally on some personal as well as professional issues this year. I was not sure at first if I have got a resolution for this year but I think the resolutions are surfacing by themselves. I won't be given any background information or detail to why I am taking these resolutions that I will mention below but they are self-explanatory as far as I am concerned:


Welcome to Standtall 7 points resolutions on handling issues and getting along with some kind of people from now on:
  1. I don't have to be nice to everyone but I need to be fair to all.
  2. I don't have to let insensitivity of some people ruin my mood, I need to just learn to apply "humour techniques" that I have learnt so far from Afrobabe and Vera [the birthday girl].
  3. It does not matter how truthful and considerate of others you might be, you will still get cross by others, your intentions misinterpreted sometimes but the guiding principle should always be about your conscience.
  4. You will sometimes offend others whether you are in the right or wrong. Be brilliant about when to say "sorry" and when to ask for one and if it is not offered to you, move on.
  5. Be strategic and economic with criticism, advice even help rendered to others, there may be need for others to learn from their own mistakes...
  6. It is not compulsory to get along with everyone, but it is necessary to learn how to work with even those you might never get along with.
  7. Always remember that the principles above are not meant to be static! Even the saints are not perfect and life is always going to be a work in progress.
My heart goes to the entire Haiti citizens and the victims of the recent earthquake that struck the country...

12 comments:

Myne Whitman said...

Did you pluck those from my head? I am also a WIP and it is not by power. Thanks for sharing this reminder.

FFF said...

daz one thing am learning, working with people even though i may not like dem! & how i wish i can joke away my annoyance, & be like vera & afro. i too vex, i tell u.


Happy new year girl!

muyiwa said...

yeah i concur with point 1,good one

Lolade said...

Happy new year, Standtall. Hope your resolutions work well. Enjoy London weather and the body search on your way back. Cheers

Afrobabe said...

Awwwwwwwwwww, we should meet up again before you get too busy or leave...

Jaycee said...

I like these 7 points...

SHE said...

Life is a Work-in-progress. Good point!

How are you?

Rita said...

My dear...those are 7 great points oh...

接觸 said...

Knowledge is a treasure, but practice is the key to it...................................................

Writefreak said...

Happy new year!

And i was just nodding at your list.

How're you doing?

StandTall-The Activist said...

Thank you all, I do wish you a happy new year. FYI, I am glad that I am keeping to the 7 points at the moment!

Kabi-Osi Edumare said...

Happy new yr...Love the 7points.

My Passion, my focus, the change that I want to see in the world - is my propellent factor.

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