Sunday, March 23, 2008

The Wedding

I went for the wedding like I said I would yesterday. I could only meet up with the reception though.
My ex-boyfriend’s clicks (we all used to be friends back then in secondary school) were fully represented, so, I just reunite with them, they couldn’t believe their eyes because to them am now slimmer and with my low cut? Oh my God, you look too young, they said.

I don’t really like weedings, burials and what have you. My reasons for not liking weddings are not far fetched, I detest Aso Ebi and gele stuff, to crown it all, they will make the bride subjective in all their programs by telling her stuff like respect and submit to your husband and making her serve him on her knees (feeding of cake and wine) without remembering to tell the husband his Godly roles in the marriage. A lot of shits that always affect my feminism belief.

Burial? They are always wasteful in Nigeria. Instead of opening a foundation in the memory of the late person, na to waste money to bury am. May be the person even suffered through life without anyone to help but befitting burial is a must. (I have a lot to say on this topic but not now).

So, I got to the wedding reception and choose to tango with my former secondary school click. Almost all the guys are married. One of them Niyi came with his wife and kid. Very fine baby girl. The couple choose to be calling themselves mummy Zainab and daddy Zainab. I said to myself in this age and time? I planned not to eat anything at the wedding but I could not resist the Amala and egusi soup with plenty fried beef I was offered. Well, it got to a point that they brought take away gift for us and only the women were given. About 6 glass cups in each package. So, now gift is be stereotyped too? Glass cups for women and nada for men.

One of my click members said to a lady friend of his (God knows what the conversation was all about) that you women always take from men, you can’t fend for yourself. What an insult, when a lot of women are taking up jobs to support their families, when some are doing 2 jobs so their husbands can go back to school, when some young girls are forced to look for jobs to take care of their families. He sure did not know what he was talking about!!! 

Did I enjoy myself? I can’t really say yes or no because I always observe issues that are not good for my health in events like this but in all, the reunion was fine and the fact that I was able to display my new “African Queen’s look” was refreshing.


jinni said...

Cool and refreshing perspective.I love to read on gender issues affecting African women.Are you really feminist and not more like a womanist?

Anonymous said...

Thanks Jinni, I am a gender activist, a womanist and a feminist.

Do you catch my drift?

Ore said...

I am not such a big fan of weddings either and tend not to go, unless I know the bride and groom really well. It can be interesting though for the friendes you get to meet up with.

O'Dee said...

Lol! u don't like aso-ebi?????

u know The whole kneeling @ weddings is mostly about protocol. It dsnt necessarily happen in the marriage.

U have 3 cats?????

Work ur short hair, am sure u look fab.

Afronuts said...

Goodness. I was going to make an entry on this aso-ebi thing but u did b4 me.

I thot I was the only one who despised Naija weddings and funerals for all the silly funfair and waste of money...

I'm surprised you don't dig it too. truth well told

Waffarian said...

Hehehehehe! no be only you my sister! I too observe more than is necessary, but unlike you, I find the whole thing thoroughly amusing. Just the wedding websites are enough to kill me with laughter talkless of the real thing! Anyway, I am hoping to attend one "live" this year, I will give you the full gist when the time comes!

Anonymous said...

I generally go to these things for the food. lol
Great post.

My Passion, my focus, the change that I want to see in the world - is my propellent factor.

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