Thursday, May 1, 2008

23 Random stuff about moi and my tagged friends

When I visited Abbie’s blog and I saw the "random things about me" she put on her blog. I was like why haven’t I. Then, Lighty made it more interesting at about the time that I am putting together some stuff about me.
Have fun and while you are at it, take Lighty’s advice that am borrowing from. Let’s see your weird/dangerous/funny or whathaveyou side and tag at least 10 bloggers (I have increased the number) by living a “you have being tagged on… (leave you URL) blog” in their comment box. Thank you, thank you but I ain’t no teacher.
Well, let’s get to the point.

1. have always asked questions since I was a kid. And since no one would answer me correctly, I resolved to providing the answers myself. All the questions are always on why am I discriminated against as a girl? Why is woman bearing all the burden of the society? Why the violence against women? Why am I also told it’s our culture and tradition?
2. My father had me when he was already past hundred… I am a centurion’s daughter and the last in the family
3. My mother was the 10th wife of my dad and she was about the age mate of his 5th son
4. I called my brothers and sisters daddy and mummy cos almost all their children are far older than me. (Do I want polygamy setting? No way!!! Hell No)
5. My dad ended up not making up to 20 children with all his wives and concubines. (He claimed he lost a lot of his kids to agent of death)
6. My first nephew is about 6o something while am just almost 30! And am a great aunt to his kids ah ah ah ah ah ah….
7. I have a half brother that is 12 yrs older than me and the one I follow is 8 yrs older. And some times we are close (or assume we are), sometimes not.
8. Am an orphan. Dad died at (135- so they said) in 1995. Mum passed away in 2003 at 65 or something (no, record of birth anywhere to be seen). God I miss them!!!
9. I have only a mother-born brother and he is 18 yrs older than me. The Secret: we no longer get along. Don’t ask me why. But I am closer to his son my Nephew how will be 21 this Sept
10. My mama told me she was desperate for another child for long before I was born
11. I did not get along with my mom for a long time cos she was too much of a disciplinarian
12. I have always being so close to my friends than my siblings. What is the reason to be close anyway in a polygamous setting full of suspicions? But the truth must be told, I missed not having a close relationship with any of my siblings. I practically grew up alone not with siblings but with friends.
13. Enough about my family, but I must mention this, I refuse to fall into the “older person should be respected when they do not deserve it” stereotype. So, I am the black sheep of the family and am proud to be one. I have got a good reason if you ask me.
14. I used to love all the extended families I have both paternal and maternal but it so happened that they proved otherwise, so now I cut the ties
15. I am a very independent lady
16. I am a Falcon's fan!
17. I write with my left and right hands… though better with my right.
18. I lost interest in sex… I pity my husband who has being enduring this for a while now. Any help will do from you ladies.
19. Activism is in my blood, we are one and only
20. I am a cat lover and nothing can change that. (Do you want any gist about me-cats? I have got 3)
21. I love black, white and brown colours but all my shoes are black, black, black and black
22. I have got 23 names cos of my birth history all this cos my mama waited 18rs before I came. So taste some of the names. Tanwa (What we are looking for), Bibitayo, Abolore (was born after momma came back from Mecca), Oluwatoyin, Khadijat,Kubura Kikelomo, Kosemoni(Must have), Arike, Bolawa, Titilayo, Olaitan, Shade,Ireigbe (goodness never goes unrewarded), Omotoyosi, Ayobami, Omowunmi, Akinrinade…(I gave 18 out of 23, I never try? Haba)
23. I don’t bother to know cars make except the one I may one day buy e’g RAV4, KIA (which other one sef?)
N:B. I ain’t a saint. I will be back with 10 not-so-perfect sides of moi


Anonymous said...

Reading about your family history is interesting! I did a meme a while back, I can add it to the pages of my blog ( I guess I'm trying to get out of doing another lol)

Question: Was your dad able to support all his wives and kids?
I also don't assume just because one is older they automatically get respect. That's just plain ridiculous. I ask people, have you never seen a 72year old crackhead?? Well then.

The Activist said...

Thanks dear Abbie, my father was rich and famous cos he was a chief. But I didnt see any money when I was born o. He was too old to work then.

Ore said...

Oh no, someone tagged me with a similar meme a while ago and it was hard coming up with 'random' stuff. I'll try it.

AJIKE said...

hahahaha!..this is very interesting..i laughed my way all true this post...

i have a friend too who cmplains all the time.

Apparently they are nine in thier family and the one before her is 35 while she is 25, the first child ius about 50 now...she says her parents were embarrased when her mother got pregnant, cos people were sticking thier nose up aspa, so they still do this and that at thier old duh!

lol...ild tell her to read this, maybe she would feel
she keep going "arugba ara ni won fi bi mi* in its in thier old age that they bore me!

nice blog!!

will be back most def!!!!

have a great weekend

LG said...

wao......(am loving this ur random stuff o )

no 2- at 100plus ur dad could still ....(lol)
no 3- how did she cope? was she d favorite?
no 17- can u teach me how to use my left
no 18- no sEX ke!!!! no comment, lol
no 20- three cats... yuck!i cant stand em
no 21- me too
no 22- which did u prefer being called?

Simi Speaks said...

great list!! wow, 3 cats?! HOW? just the mention of "cats" gives me the shivers!!! u try no bi small..

Jay said...

Really interesting read...
Centurion baby...girl, now how many ppl can make a claim on that..

Thanks for visiting my blog. Love it here, will definately be back

The Activist said...

Ore, pls do write something about yourself. It will be fun to know stuff about me-boss(there I said it).

Ajike, thanks for stopping by. I do hope your friend will feel better after reading this post.
Have a nice weekend too

LG, I think it has being proven that men can perform at any age if they still have the strength. Mama wasnt his favourite for long cos he was always anquiring new one like buying shoes in the market but he repspected her a great deal.
I prefer being called Bibitayo but that did not stick Oluwatoyin or Toyin did. But then Some people that gave me some specific names called me till date like Tanwa. I am also know as Abolore or Khadijat no thanks to my arabic classes/mates

Simi and Jarrai. Thank you thank you

Do have a nice weekend all ya

LG said...

ehen BB, i don update, oya follow me lol!!!!

WeirdGurl said...

Afrobabe said...

Danggg, this is some interesting meme...great family history...I think...I would have gone crazy in that set up..

How can you have lost interest in sex????

the only reason I plan to get married is so I can have great sex all the time,whenever...whereever...Particularly looking forward to car sex and sex on the fridge!

Didn't know u tagged are meant to leave a message on the tagged blogs...will go add u to my list :)

Amina said...

thank you for visiting my blog. Your family history is interesting. Both of my grandfathers had several wives and there is just drama all the time!!

For the love of me said...

Very interesting history. And I respect activists. But three cats,yuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuk

Lighty 'neferet' Kopearl said...

two questions... why come i av never ever seen u around?

why didnt i see the tag on my blog???

that aside, this is extremely interesting. whoa! u were given birth to when ur dad was over a 100? that is some Abraham stuvvs menh!

so many namesssss???????? darling u tried for telling 18, u did very well. thanx for sharing, its amazing u remember all of them. unlike u, i av only one name that no body refers to me as not even my family. wot is the point even giving me one name i would not be called. sometimes i wonder. the name is only used on paper, nothing more. am being referred to with the nick/pet name i was given, linked to my real name.

it must av been fun aving people around every time.

am guessing u'r probably in a well know family too.

The Activist said...

Lighty dear, well, you probably have not seeing me around cos you have got too many of us (lol)

Yes, my family is well known in my village (lol).

It was fun and bad having so many pple around trust me.

I am stuck with the name I would have not used anyway but I choose it myself. It has a good meaning but I prefer something else. I realised this too late.

ablackjamesbond said...

I respect ur Father...him be 'jugunu'...anyways i love ur name-Omotanwa- i think its sexy

The Activist said...

See u o ablackjamesbond, na my pa u dey compare with that bad JUGUNU for Indian films od those days. If I catch you!!!

My Passion, my focus, the change that I want to see in the world - is my propellent factor.

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