Saturday, July 19, 2008

It doesn't Matter

It doesn’t matter whether you can buy me expensive gifts or not
It doesn’t matter whether you can take me out and spoil me or not
It doesn’t matter whether you have money or not
It matters not, whether we have kids or not
It doesn’t matter whether we can afford the best in life or not

But it matters:
That we keep being friends
That you keep being a partner
That you keep being yourself
That you love me for me
That I trust you and love you

And he sent this to me:
My angel, its been a year since we both agreed that "WE DO". Its been a year of trying hard, a year of ups and down but most of all a year of discovery, the discovery of what LOVE means. And here once again with renewed vigor, with the understanding of what it means to love you and be loved by you I here by renew, upgrade, update and reload that vow again;I WILL ALWAYS LOVE YOU. Now tomorrow and when its just me and you at the other side of age and graying I will continue to love you. You are my world, my everything, my ARIKE EDU.
D MAN!

And I said to him:
My dude, I don’t mind being single, I don’t mind being alone, I don’t mind not having anyone to refer to as my “husband”, I don’t mind what the society would think about my beliefs BUT given you up would have being the greatest error in humankind history and I am happy I averted the error!!!
HAPPY “ONE YEAR” WEDDING ANNIVERSARY TO YOU AND ME!!!

33 comments:

LG said...

FIRSTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT

LG said...

CONGRATULATIONS babes
May God continue to bless U n Oga AMEN.
make i come chop rice??

LG said...

and stew,
n salad,
n fish
n chicken
n turkey
n .....erm....erm... wat else? lollll

njoy ursef jare
norrin do u

Tairebabs said...

this was soooo romantic and so sweet! very nice. awwwwwww.

all this love on blogville. You people want to kill me with envy (good envy sha if there is such a thing). Congrats! May God continue to be with you both.

archiwiz said...

Congratulations to both of you girl. One milestone down, many more to go, in Jesus' name...AMEN!!

onydchic said...

aw, congrats...that was sweet.

'Yar Mama said...

Happy anniversary...May you grow old with one another, and may the journey be worthwhile...

'Yar Mama said...

Happy anniversary...May you grow old with one another, and may the journey be worthwhile...

aloted said...

Awwwwwwwwwwwwwww
congrats o!!!

Happy 1st year ani o..emi a se opo e o!!!

I go luv o! sweetness!!!

Jennifer A. said...

Happy anniversary to u guysss...I pray for many many many more yrs of JOY and HAPPINESS and LAUGHTER!!! :)

Naija Idol said...

Happy Annivesary. U guys r so Romantic!!!!

Anonymous said...

Congratulation to you and L.
May God continue to bless your marriage!!!

Love you guys!!

Grahamn Kracker said...

Congratulations - one year and deeper in love even than before!

And you have not only each other, but those cats to share the love with.

Give my regards, all the way from Wasilla, Alaska, USA to this man who loves you.

Afrobabe said...

congrats babes, kind of makes me ashamed of myself...I wonder if I can honestly say I would be with him without all those things..

I better hang out a lot more here before I say I do..

congrats...

NaijaScorpio said...

awwww........ how sweet. Congratulations!!

The Activist said...

Dear ALL:
I will really like to that you all for your well wishes. It’s really good to have this community and you all are wonderful. I wish you all the best in your life endeavour. Standtall partner is appreciating you toooo. He was overwhelmed by ur comments. Have I mentioned that he is now an active blogger? I won’t reveal his identity just yet.


Afrobabe: I like you for being real. It’s good to be true to oneself and you r in deed true to yourself. I love that in you.


PEACE!!!

The Activist said...

Dear ALL:
I will really like to thank you all for your well wishes. It’s really good to have this community and you all are wonderful. I wish you all the best in your life endeavour.
Standtall partner is appreciating you toooo. He was overwhelmed by ur comments. Have I mentioned that he is now an active blogger? I won’t reveal his identity just yet.


Afrobabe: I like you for being real. It’s good to be true to oneself and you r in deed true to yourself. I love that in you.


PEACE!!!

Dee said...

Happy Anniversary!

O'Dee said...

Awwwwwwwwwwwwwww!!!!!!!!!!!
me 2 I want 2 do wedding anniversary.

Congrats to MR & Mrs Standtall.

Writefreak said...

Congrats and happy anniversary. May you and hubby enjoy many more wonderful years together!

Flourishing Florida said...

happy anniversary! ur poem is beautiful! wishing u many happy years ahead!

isha said...

congrats on your anniversary! lovely poem.

Blue Eyed Blonde said...

Congrats T.....You are tempting us singles o!

Afrobabe said...

lol...thx for the errrrm compliment, I have met good women here, women I intend to learn from an u r definately one of them...

The Activist said...

Afrobabe: It's a fact and not a compliment. i am glad to know I am one of those women u intend to learn from. I can say he same abt u. I learn a great deal from ur comments on pple's blogs. U rock.

LISA VAZQUEZ said...

Hi there!

Congratulations!

(smiles)

Lisa

The Activist said...

Dee: thanks a lot

OluwaDee: and you will by HIS grace. Thank you

Writefreak: thanks a lot

Isha: Thank you dearie

Blue Eye Blonde: yes o. Be tempted o

Lisa; thank you

Waffarian said...

Congratualtions! May your love grow stronger each year, may you find joy always in the arms of each other, may your house be filled with lots of laughter and may you always stand tall!

lots of love, hugs and kisses!

Waffarian said...

Congratualtions! May your love grow stronger each year, may you find joy always in the arms of each other, may your house be filled with lots of laughter and may you always stand tall!

lots of love, hugs and kisses!

The Activist said...

Waffarian: thank you. i wish you all the best in life too mi-lady

Scarlet said...

Congratulations!!! Hope u both grow old and grey together as u celebrate many more anniversaries

Zayzee said...

very sweet. and some people can still say there's no such thing as love? they r mistaken. see testimony here.

Zayzee said...

very sweet. and some people can still say there's no such thing as love? they r mistaken. see testimony here.

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