Sunday, October 12, 2008

And he is gone...

I am sorry if I have not being so forthcoming in responding to Chioma's interview comments. I have being so blue lately. Being so unhappy about so many things and the king of it all came a few days ago. I lost someone. He's being gone since June 6, 2008 and I was not told till last week!

I found out by accident, as someone called to tell me about the passing of my step mother which I already knew ( mama was old) then she asked if I knew about the other death too. The other death? This took me by surprise. How? When? Why him? Yes, I know we will all die. Time and age are of no essence in so many cases but this death was as shocking to me as the passing of Pastor Bimbo Odukoya. A lot of people even believers asked God why He let pastor Bimbo Odukayo, a very viable vessel in His vineyard die untimely.

Now I have being asking why? I don't know who I am asking in particular or why I am asking. I am just in a state that word cannot describe. Yes, I called the family and when I finally got through to them, they said they did not tell me because I have being falling sick off and on for a while and they didn't not want to upset me. I am so sad, still very sad.

They are (were) twins. So identical, inseparably so. They did everything together. Before I got to know them deeply, I always wonder how to tell them apart. They grew to love God. They started a ministry that has blessed me. Though they are in my home town, I still send my tithe down. When my mother took ill before she passed away, they were there, interceeding on her behalf. They are/were so full of life. They have got purpose to lift His name above any other name. They could get a very lucrative job but they prefer serving God. They turned 40 last February. I visited home a few days before their birthday. I still saw them in thier togetherness. Dressing alike, laughing alike, loving people under thier care. I was so happy to see them.

From June up till the time I knew about his demise, I have being calling them and my other pastor that works with them. They always assure me that everyone was fine. I have being speaking with one of the twins but I never knew the other was gone! Gone! Left! Dead! Why?
He could at least stay to be 70! God could do that! But why did Evangelist Taye Ajiboye have to go so soon? How will his twin ever cope? Yes, he is coping still loving God. But I am sure his heart is bleeding. My heart is bleeding. It will continue to bleed for a long time to come.

REST IN PEACE EVANGELIST TAYE AJIBOYE. I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU ARE GONE. I DON'T KNOW WHY YOU HAVE TO GO... WHY OH WHY?!

26 comments:

LG said...

*sigh* pele dearie'
wat else can i say xcept only God knows why'
take heart for He alone understands...
May daddy's soul continue to rest in peace Amen'

rethots said...

Hmmm, think i knew them from a distance. Their elder brother (naval officer) was the EXO in my school back then. They stayed with him.

The good memories 'em we love leave behind is what makes their passing on bearable.

aloted said...
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aloted said...

I was actually coming here to harass u for not seeing you on mine lastly but now i am short of words...

so so sorry to hear about your loss...God gives and God takes...

Temite said...

I am so very sorry about your loss. Its times like this that my being agnostic seems like the right choice. Dont you wish you can just question your God right about now, to let you know why. Please take heart and try to live your best life. PS I love your blog so much, its inspirational to read about such strong and talented people. Keep it up!

isha said...

God gives us strength to understand the things that don't make sense to the simple mind. It is well my dear.

poeticallytinted said...

May you find the strength to bear this loss. I know exactly how you feel. And if you need to talk about anything sweetie, i am only a phone call away. I will come over if that's what you need.
Love always.

funkola said...

may God grant u strength to deal with ur loss. a brighter day is coming hun, don't despair.

Dee! said...

Be strong! It is well with you ALWAYS!

For the love of me said...

So so sorry about your loss. May God give you the grace to bear the loss.

FFF said...

eh ya. it's well with his soul. just pray dat he was n d state of grace @ d time he passed. it's well.


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EXSENO said...

Words can not convey how much my heart aches for your loss. I was closer to my cousin then I was to my own sister. Three years ago she died. She died in November and her husband didn't tell me until February of the next year. I don't know what hurt worse the fact that she was gone or the fact that no one told me.

We have to believe that there is a good reason for everything and though we don't know why, God knows.
We grieve for selfish reasons, we love and miss them, but while we are sad, they are now happy, while we cry, they are now laughing. While we wonder that big question why? They now have all the answers.

We must have faith that God knows when the right time is and they are now in a better place.

Grahamn Kracker said...

I know the sense of loss and puzzlement, dear Standtall. So from way up here in Alaska, my heart is with you. May his memory strengthen and comfort you even as his presence did in life.

Ore said...

So sorry to hear of your loss. God is with you and with his family.

Oluchi said...

So sorry for your loss, May the good Lord who sees all things and knows all things give you and the family the strength to bear your loss. Amin...

Sola Folowosele said...

eeeya! may his soul rest in peace!dust for dust...

Yewande Atanda said...

sorry about that. God giveth and taketh.

DB said...

it's so hard to lose anybody especially someone you r close too.
My condolences.
Take heart, God dey, e go beta!

Rita said...

pele...may you feel comforted this period. A warm hug from Rita...

Buttercup said...

I really am sorry...only God knows why...please take heart...

Black Cat said...

I am so sorry to read this sad news. We cannot fathom the mind of God but I feel for you at this painful time. Take care of yourself. xxx

Standtall said...

THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR ENCOURAGING WORDS. I APPRECIATE YOU ALL

Blue Eyed Blonde said...

Take heart o! As difficult as it is to understand, God knows why!

Blue Eyed Blonde said...

Take heart o! As difficult as it is to understand, God knows why!

Chioma said...

Standtall, dearie, accept my condolences.

Lolade said...

Even though I don't know him you have really touched me with your description. I hope that his twin will continue with the good work that they've both started. May his soul rest in peace.

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