My aspiration is to be one of the builders of a world of equality, a world where diversity is respected and value for people's lives is paramount. A world where religion and culture are not used as weapons of dispute and destruction, where leaders serve and not steal, where everyone does not pretend to love each other but does so straight from the heart.
Tuesday, June 2, 2009
Seriously do I need to listen to this?
This is the point where I need to say WTF. Excuse my French. The story was that I agreed to be a friend of this stalker because according to him, he is a smooth stalker (not his word) that just wanted to be my friend as he likes the way I get busy in the bus reading every time we journeyed together which in my opinion is not quite often.
I won’t say I did not know the guy but he was just one among many other people I normally board the buses with on my way to work. Well, to cut a long story short, we became "friends" today. We talked as we rode to work in the commercial bus. He just wanted to be my friend.
So, he called hours later and we talked and I wonder during the conversation if I am not going to Say “you know what, we can’t be friends”. It’s obvious we have nothing in common. In the course of our phone conversation, he asked when I normally close from work and why I am in a hurry to get home; he wanted to know if it was because of my kids. I then told him I have none. He then asked me why I got married then! What? So, marriage is all about having kids?
He went further to lecture me on the fact that I am a Yoruba woman and that’s how it is in our culture, we marry for children. I told him I did not marry for kids and my tribe should not dictate how I run my life. Guess what this guy said. He said this is the reason why he doesn’t advocate for women to be too educated! Are you kidding me? Is someone listening?
He is a “women should be seen and not heard; women are for reproduction and house keep” kind of guy in my own opinion. But I am not angry because I had to think that women were treated as properties and second citizens then due to the fact that we did not know better. But with education that is an eye opener for everyone, women now know better and if some people are threatened by this, well, they are advised to rethink.