This is the point where I need to say WTF. Excuse my French. The story was that I agreed to be a friend of this stalker because according to him, he is a smooth stalker (not his word) that just wanted to be my friend as he likes the way I get busy in the bus reading every time we journeyed together which in my opinion is not quite often.
I won’t say I did not know the guy but he was just one among many other people I normally board the buses with on my way to work. Well, to cut a long story short, we became "friends" today. We talked as we rode to work in the commercial bus. He just wanted to be my friend.
So, he called hours later and we talked and I wonder during the conversation if I am not going to Say “you know what, we can’t be friends”. It’s obvious we have nothing in common. In the course of our phone conversation, he asked when I normally close from work and why I am in a hurry to get home; he wanted to know if it was because of my kids. I then told him I have none. He then asked me why I got married then! What? So, marriage is all about having kids?
He went further to lecture me on the fact that I am a Yoruba woman and that’s how it is in our culture, we marry for children. I told him I did not marry for kids and my tribe should not dictate how I run my life. Guess what this guy said. He said this is the reason why he doesn’t advocate for women to be too educated! Are you kidding me? Is someone listening?
He is a “women should be seen and not heard; women are for reproduction and house keep” kind of guy in my own opinion. But I am not angry because I had to think that women were treated as properties and second citizens then due to the fact that we did not know better. But with education that is an eye opener for everyone, women now know better and if some people are threatened by this, well, they are advised to rethink.
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duhhh? where is he from, rubbish, what does he mean by "that why he does like women being educated", is marriage all about baby factories????
It is obvious, he is shallow in his mind and thinking, no woman should listen to this abeg.
this deserves a real WTF!!!! Maybe he just moved to the city from the village where women are up for sale.
I'm visually smakcing him balck and blue. hisssssssssssss!!!!
*brain explodes*
Ugh. Such men sicken me. I rarely see them, but when I do, I don't hide my distaste. I hope you told him off. Nonsense.
im so having a wtf moment too......
what planet is he from? did he just wake up from the 1800s?????????
ple tell me u gave him a real piece of ur mind and lectured him till he realises his stupidity......mschewwwwwwww
I am going to share with you some wisdom that I have garnered:
Literacy is not the same thing as enlightenment. It just means, that you can read and write. Thus, don't expect people to suddenly change because they can read and write. Most likely, they can read and write the ignorance that they are.
That said, how bodi?
lol! What absolute nonsense. I just read baraal/culture soup's blog and it was a similar post discussing the limited thinking some people have when it comes to women.
Unfortunately, there are far too many people with that limited attitude. A woman's life is not dictated by whether or not she marries, has children and dies. Come on, now...
What crab hole did he crawl out of? This is just absurd!
LOL,seriously,i think it funny!!!
I think he was just trying to seek for your attention.so if for instance, it was me he spoke to and i told him,i am rushing home to watch a movie and i am not interested in getting married,he would tell me its too much education too abi??joker joker
i cannot speak! i honestly have no words!
Your French is excused..
He should educate himself...
Rubbish Nonsense.. it Maybe that he resides under a pre-existing rock with a huge heavy steel dustbin blocking the free flow of knowledge..
He really chose the wrong woman to sell his idea which drips of mediocrity to..
The sad part is we would all be alarmed at the percentage of the population that share this damaging belief..
I had to read it twice cos I was like, that isn't what she typed. I'd like to meet this non-entity. Imagine that?!
Men need to get the memo that the world has evolved, so they can understand that they don't need to be chimps anymore.
LMAO @ Ms. Catwalq
This guy obviously needs some education...nonsense
male chauvinist!
That guy is an a$$..
Just tell him the next time he try to sit beside you to ja comot.
At this time and age?..why would he be thinking like that?. Abeg.. barr his number.
r u fucking kidding me?
Pink Satin encapsulated my reaction pretty well. Delete his number ASAP and when you see him in the bus, please don't speak to him.
If civilization was left to him, we would all be in leaves and singing war songs. IDIOT!
nawawa!
he's an uneducated, although literate idiot! i rest my case!
If only he knew who he was talking to... too funny, but easy now ladies with all the french... lol
You are all making me feel I should have really gotten very angry about this issue. I am sure he has got the message. But when we see again, he may get one lesson or the other about how uneducated he is if I am in the mood...
Ms. Catwalq is right to differentiate btw Literacy and enlightenment. I trully agree and this is my sentiment exactly
And LG Swerri, which one is nawawa?
I didn't see this before.. I wonder why.
These kind of men makes my blood boil. Ohhhhh their self righteous arrogance! How are we going to get them educated.
Hearing someone express such sentiments stings no matter how confident you are. I find it very interesting that he thought it was his place to lecture you on how you should be living because i get the impression that you two don't know each other that well. Clearly he has no manners.
You may try talking to him calmly about it if the issue comes up again. If not, you may be better off keeping your distance from him. I'm not sure debating with him would achieve much apart from raise your bp. Hopefully he realises the error of his ways.
Well, he picked the wrong woman to say these kind of things to. I hope that you gave him your blog address.
who is 'HE'???
who is 'HE'???
Hi Standtall, hw r u? Snet you an email but you didn't respond, se we dey fight?
the guy is just a jack-ass.
where is he from? he must be a well fed ara oke.
darkclee wat do u mean o, i am an ara oke so tread carefully.
Mmmm.... This is what Nigerian women have to deal with in the name of men! Stupidity!
Hopefully he'll avoid you on the bus and everything else.
The sad part of this is that many women also agree with this kind of thinking, and many Nigerian men are unable to deal with the results of the changes that have occurred in our society over the past 40 years. Sad. Just sad.
Oh, and some people are not worth it ohh. You might be surprised at the reaction you receive in the bus if you meet him again and he tries to take you up on his idiocy. It may be good, or not so good, or horribly bad. You don't want a fairly peaceful bus ride to turn into a casting and binding session do you?
Play it as you feel it when the time comes though. I want to hear what happens.
in this modern age, well...african mentality, isnt that what they call such ignorance?
I am just a wee bit worried that you tell us about this stalker guy and then disappear from your blog for a few days - including Cat Tuesday.
I know. It probably doesn't mean a thing and sometimes I drift away from one or both of my blogs for even longer lengths of time.
Still, I will be very glad to see your next post.
I am listening o! the guy is simply speaking out of his ignorance. People like that don't get my attention. As Miss Catwalq said he is not enlightened.
You'd be surprised to know a lot of guys think that way honestly. I recently met some guy with same notion - "women are only good for house keeping". It is well. They should stay there and be decieveing themselves, we will show them what we are made of, by the time we take over leadership in 2012, they will know!...lol
First time here, Nice blog!
First time here..great blog too..
WHen i hear of men who stil talk that way, i pity them.. their minds are stil in the ancient days but and they just don't know that their self-delusional and that's to their detriment..
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