For the lack of a better title, I will just call it “just ranting”. Well, I got me a friend that stays with hubby and I. She is a good friend of mine. Our friendship spans 12 yrs!!! We have a spare room and we asked her to move in.
She is got her space; she's got her privacy, totally no intrusion. There are some concerns though as it is known you get to know a person better when you are together, like she pours water on the floor and won’t look back to mop it until she is told or I simply would do it. Hubby cooks if he gets home before us and my friend now believes that either hubby or I would cook, she will simply disappear into her room when she gets back from work not that she does this all the time but it’s a normal practise. She would finish eating and drop the plate in the sink till the following day. At times, she leaves her used plates and pots in the morning and dashes off to work. She is always out on weekends and that is always an excuse not to wash the toilet and bathroom when it’s her turn.
What happened was that one day she left the used pot and plates in the kitchen and went to work. I sent her a text message so she could know that the act was not appreciated. I did this in order to avoid saying the wrong thing if I tackled this on face to face basis and making her feel bad. So, that passed after she generated an excuse for not washing them (as usual) though she never stopped the habit of leaving her plate in the sink till the following day or just leaving it behind for me to do the washing or hubby would wash the plates if he is doing the chores.
Just a few nights ago, she came from work, went to sleep, woke up later to eat out of the beans that hubby cooked, left the only plate she used in the sink (the truth is, I can’t stand that dirty habit, wash your plates after use and don’t pile them up), dressed up for vigil. She came back in the morning and the plate has already being washed, only for her to use up another plate and pot, drop them in the sink and left for work!!!
When I saw this, I thought I had to address this issue, I sent this text message.
Do tell me something blogville, have I overreacted? How best do I handle issues like this taking into consideration that it’s natural to be freer to one friend than the other, when serious issues are involved?
Speak freely please.